Updated: Aug 10
The pain that we feel when our relationship with someone we love is ended can be very intense. Common symptoms of a broken heart include sadness, crying, and feeling physical aches and pains in the heart and body.
Symptoms of your grief can interfere with your health, well-being, and ability to function in your daily life!
If you’re dealing with the effects of a broken heart, you might be tempted to deny your feelings or withdraw from others so that no one can get close enough to hurt you again. However, denial and withdrawal are unproductive strategies.
Luckily, there are steps you can take to help you heal and move on, no matter how much time has passed since your break-up.
Try these strategies to begin to heal your broken heart today:
1. Cut off all contact and physically remove all reminders of your former love. Mementos from your life together hold you back from moving on. Just as a physical wound is unable to heal if you keep picking off the scab, holding on to anything that reminds you of your ex is simply going to prolong your misery.
· Get rid of your ex’s belongings. If they no longer want these items, donate them to a thrift store or charity that accepts used clothing and similar items.
· Remove pictures, gifts, love letters, or anything else that reminds you of your ex. Removing these reminders will help you to stop obsessing and rehashing past events.
· Remember your online and digital profiles. Delete every picture, text, and email that you received from your ex, and remove their information from your devices.
· Contact your friends and family members and let them know that the relationship is over. Ask them to avoid bringing up your ex. If your loved ones are having trouble complying with your request, you may need to limit your contact with them for a while.
· Stop going to the places that you frequented as a couple.
By removing the physical reminders of your past life together, you’re literally clearing out both your mind and heart. This will allow you to grow and make a new life for yourself.
2. Take care of yourself as you heal. While it’s tempting to throw yourself into your work or drown your sorrows with too much food and alcohol, harmful escapes will only cause you to feel worse in the long run. · Eat healthy foods and consider joining an exercise class that helps you socialize while releasing excess energy and getting fit.
· Start a new hobby. Great choices include taking classes to learn a new language or skill, or becoming a volunteer at a local school or charity.
Focus on coping strategies that will boost your health and self-esteem.
3. Remain calm if you run into your ex. If you live in the same town, chances are great that you’ll eventually run into your former love. Prepare yourself for this eventuality so that you can cope effectively. Focus on your breathing, and keep any exchange brief and polite.
Healing from a broken heart isn’t easy, but practicing these strategies will help you to begin the process. If you can heal your broken heart, you’ll be free, ready, and strong enough to love again, maybe even sooner than you think.
Latisa Be is a certified grief coach helping women to heal the wounds of the past so they can live a happier and healthier life. She teaches women who are ready to do something different to let go of emotional pain that has been holding them hostage for years. If you are ready to let go, schedule a free discovery session with Latisa.